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The importance of continuing

December 19, 2018 by Brenda 1 Comment

Life is a continuum. However, often at this time of the year, we start considering our New Year’s resolutions in order to build a brighter future. But, how often do people follow through on these intentions?

While I wholeheartedly support developing carefully thought-out personal strategy, I believe that we often neglect plans for implementing and sustaining our goals. In addition, we tend to concentrate on what we need to start doing. For example, we may decide that we should start spending an hour at the gym five times a week. However, we might be doomed for failure because we do not have the capacity to start this new activity unless we stop doing something else.

In addition, complacency can be a stumbling block. While we plan what we wish to concurrently start and stop doing, we also need to remind ourselves to continue doing the things that energise us, bring us joy and help us to grow. These may include everyday experiences which are important to us. For example I was intrigued reflecting on the following glimpses of my life:

December 2018 – Brenda and Harps – Manly, New South Wales, Australia

The above photo, taken by my daughter, Lara, in December 2018, shows me with my special Grand-dog, Harps. We were on one of my favourite walks in Manly, New South Wales, Australia. Here you can see us at a great coffee shop in one of the alleys. The backdrop is colourful street-art. Because there is pavement seating, Harps is allowed to be at the table with us. So this outing combined my love of family, dogs, walking, being next to the sea, vibrant colours, appreciation of creativity and beauty and interest in the world around me.

I was reminded of another similar joyous occasion many years ago. I smiled when I looked at the photo below as it brought back memories of one of the other many important dogs in our lives.

January 1969 – Campbell, Brenda and Toni – Pietermaritzburg, Republic of South Africa

The above photo was taken in January 1969, fifty years ago. Let me set the scene: three days before our wedding, Ed’s brother Roy surprised us, knowing how much we love dogs. Our wedding gift was a miniature poodle puppy! Antoine Comte de Kintia (simply known as Toni) was precious. How could we not include him as the guest-of-honour at our wedding? Here, at the wedding ceremony, he is held by my father, Campbell.


January 2018 – Ed and Bella – Hout Bay, Western Cape, Republic of South Africa

Dogs are an integral part of our lives. Although we leave our own dogs at home when we travel, there are always opportunities where we can enjoy other people’s dogs. Above, in January 2018, my husband Ed is seen with Kevin and Gavin’s Bella at Hout Bay, Western Cape, South Africa where we were holidaying.

These are examples of incorporating experiences that bring out the best in me, energising me and enabling me to confidently pursue my personal strategy. I encourage you to do the same. Have a visible list of your ‘touchstones’, those sights, sounds, smells, tastes and experiences that help you to feel your best. Incorporating these on a regular basis will help you to feel good, be energised and enable you to stretch yourselves in working towards your vision.

My questions for you are:

  • Just as dogs are a theme running through my life, what positive recurring themes are there in your life?
  • In which ways do you consciously develop tactics for incorporating the sights, sounds, smells and experiences that bring out the best in you?
  • What are you doing to ensure that you continue doing all the things that energise you?
  • How can you use positive energy to build your confidence to tackle the more difficult aspects of your personal strategy?

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Personal Resources Updated

June 14, 2016 by Brenda Leave a Comment

When facilitating ‘personal strategy’ during ‘leadership development’ sessions or developing a ‘three year vision’ during a series of ‘networking tactics’ workshops, I like to set the scene by asking participants to imagine themselves three-years hence.  Sometimes we prefer to take a one-year time frame.  Life moves fast!
 
We start by considering ‘personal resources’.  This helps to focus the participant’s thinking and ‘ground’ the development of their vision statement.  Although I have provided similar articles in October 2011 and May 2012, I am sharing the updated questions I have developed for clients. 
 
Please imagine what you’d like your life to look like in three years’ time and answer the questions below which relate to personal resources:
 
Resource questions for a three-year personal strategy template
 
Please reflect on the following questions:
 
Financial 
What capital do you wish to have accumulated?
What are you earning? 
What income are you generating on a regular basis? 
How are you doing this?
How have you invested your money?
 
Employment 
Where are you working? 
What are you doing? 
What position do you hold?
What opportunities are there for future growth in this job – or elsewhere? 
And how are you going to achieve this?
What secondary firm or business might you also be involved in?
 
People 
Which people are significant in:
• your personal life?
• your business life?
• your community life?
 
Time 
How are you allocating your time?  This is a big question as it covers:
• your personal life?
• your business life?
• your community life?
What are you doing in your ‘spare’ time?
 
Energy 
How are you building your personal energy? 
How are you conserving it? 
How are you spending it? 
 
Technology 
How ‘up to date’ are you? 
How are you effectively incorporating the latest available technology where beneficial?
 
Knowledge, skills and qualifications 
What new skills have you acquired in the last 3 years? 
What new qualifications have you achieved? 
What are you aiming for in the next period?
 
Transport 
What means of transport do you have or use?
What vehicles do you own?
 
Brand 
Your personal brand is a resource. 
How have you built it?
How are you promoting it?
 
Coaching 
Yes, coaching is a resource. 
What have you done to make sure that you are exposed to the right coaching for you? 
How are you benefitting?
What other forms of self-development might you be engaged in?
 
Network 
Your personal network is a powerful resource. 
What are you doing to build and maintain relationships? 
How are you improving your skills as a networker?
What are you doing to expand your network in a meaningful way?
 
Equipment and supplies 
What equipment and supplies are relevant to your needs?
 
Community upliftment 
What community upliftment programmes are you involved in?
What part does social responsibility play in your life?
 
Environmental awareness 
How are you helping to protect the environment?
 
Other 
You are welcome to add your own questions here.  Please also let me know if you think of other questions I should include.  Thank you! 
 
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New Year Resolutions: The Morning After…

May 9, 2011 by Brenda Leave a Comment

There is hope!  Your dreams can come true!  Although ‘the morning after’ may make your New Year resolutions seem dismal, it can be the second day of an exciting journey!

The expression, ‘the morning after’ often implies negativity.  And that’s exactly what I intended.  By the time you read this, you may already have started to wonder why you bothered making ‘New Year resolutions’ or thinking about some positive personal change you could bring about as we entered 2011?   Past failures may have conditioned you to think ‘my New Year resolutions never work’ so you may not even try making them.  Even if your New Year resolutions have provided some success, why do they fade into insignificance by ‘the morning after’ New Year?  - or within the next week?  Sustainability is a challenge.

The challenge
‘New Year resolutions’ are often made as ‘stand alone’ intentions.  I believe that most people treat ‘resolutions’ as events or transactions, so intentions are not followed by sustainable action. 

If we consider our ‘resolutions’ as part of a process we will be more successful.  We need to plan, implement and monitor results.

Your vision of your future
I have coined the term ‘resource-centered personal strategy’ for my approach and it begins with an individual’s vision of the future.  In other words, where do you want to be in three years?  That needs a great deal of careful consideration.  And what action plans do you need to work through in order to achieve your vision?  Your New Year resolutions will fit in as part of the overall plan.

Critical success factors
Let’s step back.  A few years ago, the great business guru, Ken Blanchard advocated that in order to be successful a business needed to be continuously improving, customer driven, ‘fast and flexible’ and cost effective.  I worked on this concept at the time and used these principles.  As time passed I added another critical success factor, ‘networked’ (which includes relationship building) and I have now added a new component which I’ll call ‘convenient’.

Resources
I believe those same principles or ‘critical success factors’ can play an important part in ensuring personal success, too.  For this article, I’m concentrating only on the critical success factor, ‘cost effective’.  I use this term to refer not only to finances but to all resources (in the broader context) available to us.  How have we accumulated each resource and how are we using or allocating all our resources. In other words, the main question to ask is:  What do I want my resources to be in three years time?  And how am I going to be using each resource?  How effectively will I be getting ‘maximum mileage’ out of each component?

I run many training courses on personal strategy.  Participants include adults in a wide range of professions and businesses and they may be at any level in their organisation from CEO down to other levels.  These sessions are sometimes run for individuals privately or for groups of individuals.  However, each individual develops their own plan.

These courses are always adapted to suit specific needs.  For example, each year I run training courses for young engineers (metallurgical, chemical, mechanical) and we look at a three-year time-frame for each individual’s ‘plan’.  That is a good ‘chunk’ or time-frame, long enough to plan significant change or stabilisation and yet short enough to work with.   I stress that answers need to be realistic, yet stretch people out of their comfort zones.  Examples of the questions relating to ‘resources’ that I ask are:

Resource      
Question (answers need to be given as though the participant has projected themselves three years into the future)
Financial
What capital do you wish to have accumulated?
What are you earning? 
What income are you generating on a regular basis? 
How are you doing this?
How have you invested your money?
Employment 
Where are you working? 
What are you doing? 
What opportunities are there for future growth? 
And how are you going to achieve this?
Human
Which people are significant in your personal life, your business life and your community life?
Time 
How are you allocating your time?  (This is a big question as it covers personal, business and community.)
Energy
How are you building your personal energy?
How are you conserving it? 
How are you spending it? 
Accommodation 
Where are you living?  Describe.
Knowledge and qualifications
How have you progressed in the last three years?
What new skills have you acquired? 
What new qualifications have you achieved?
What are you aiming for in the next period?
Transport
What means of transport do you have or use?
Brand 
Your personal brand is a resource. 
How have you built it?
How are you promoting it?
Coaching
Yes, coaching is a resource.  What have you done to make sure that you are exposed to the right coaching for you?  How are you benefitting?
Network
Your personal network is a powerful resource.  What are you doing to build and maintain relationships? 
How are you improving your skills as a networker?
What are you doing to expand your network in a meaningful way?
Technology
How ‘up to date’ are you? 
Can you effectively incorporate the latest available technology where beneficial?
The above are representative of questions covered in the workshops.  Not all questions are included here.  However, answering these would be a good start!

The process
Please ponder the above questions.  They deserve your careful consideration.  They will help to shape the picture that you are painting of your life and achievements in three years time.
Picture 
A. The process starts by looking at your life in three years time and being sure that you know how you envision your future.
Now 
B. Then we say: ‘That is where I want to be but where am I now relating to each of those questions’?
Gap
C. For each resource, look at your picture of the future and your current status. The difference between the two is the ‘gap’ that you are going to use for planning purposes.
Action plan
D. This is where the action really begins.  For each resource in your life, in terms of that gap, you can now set three-year action plans covering your goals.
6-month goals
E. Then you need to break those goals down into manageable chunks.  In other words, put time frames to each action.  If you are looking at three years, a good idea is to have six 6-month periods and decide which of the goals you are going to achieve in each period. By concentrating on specific outcomes for each 6-month period, you’ll be more likely to achieve success.

Watchpoint:  Make sure that your goals for each 6-month period are manageable.  Sometimes you’ll find it better to spread your goals linked to a specific resource over more than one 6-month period.  In other cases, goals relating to a specific resource may not appear in certain 6-month periods as they have been allocated to other periods.

Implement
F. The first period being now.  And it doesn’t have to be the official ‘New Year’.  This marks the implementation or ‘execution’ of the goals for the first period.
Control
G. You’ll also need to introduce a monitoring and reporting system.  I appreciate that mostly you’ll be reporting to yourself.  But by diarising each report date (say once a month) and monitoring the progress on each goal, you can deal with deviations as they arise.
Evaluate
H. At the end of the first 6-month period, it will be exciting to see how much progress you have made.
Next cycle
I. You then begin the second 6-month period and repeat the whole process.

So what I’m saying is that you shouldn’t be looking at your New Year resolutions as isolated events or goals.  They should form part of the whole picture of what you are going to achieve over a three-year period. That way you have a far greater chance of success.

Summary
There is no need for ‘the morning after’ New Year to seem dismal.  It can be the second day of an exciting journey towards success.

In my first book, ‘Networking Tactics’ I combined personal strategy with networking tactics.  However, success in applying these concepts with individuals and groups has fuelled my passion.  I continue to incorporate new concepts and improve in other ways.  Hence my new approach as captured above is my ‘resource centered’ approach to personal strategy.  It works!

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