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Motivating your Mind…Inspiring your Spirit

February 20, 2015 by Brenda Leave a Comment

Building relationships enables us to explore possibilities and then work together for mutual advantage.  The benefits are enormous. 

Through my membership of the NSAA (National Speakers Association of Australia) I met Rob Salisbury, Director of Strategic Resources International who is based in Singapore, Sydney and the USA.   And it was through the same organisation and through Rob that I was introduced to Monika Newman of Absolutely Virtual, who is based in Sydney.  

I am delighted to have again been invited to be a contributing author to their excellent e-book ‘Motivating your Mind … Inspiring your Spirit’.   Congratulations to Rob and Monika on initiating, co-ordinating and completing yet another excellent e-book.  This 2015 edition contains 107 stories written by over 95 contributors.  And they are based in many different countries.

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My invitation is to you, the reader is to download your complimentary copy of this new e-book by:

  1. Going to http://bit.ly/SRI_2015_e-book
  2. Then clicking on the download button in the top right hand corner of your screen or right-click on the download button
  3. Select save page to Dropbox or save to your computer.

You’ll have your own copy of ‘Motivating your Mind…Inspiring your Spirit’ which you are welcome to share with others.

My two articles, ‘Broken Biscuits’ and ‘Don’t worry, be happy’ appear on pages 35 and 36.  Enjoy reading the stories. And as you read them, think of the power of networking, building relationships.  Without my Australian friendships I would not have been invited to contribute stories to this book – and I would therefore not have shared them with you!  Thank you for being part of my network. 

For more information on training in networking skills please see www.strategy-leadership.com or contact Brenda on brenda@ strategy-leadership.com or +27 82 4993311.

Successful women

August 27, 2014 by Brenda Leave a Comment

Have you read ‘Lean In:  women, work, and the will to lead’ by Sheryl Sandberg, COO of Facebook?  It has stirred up some challenging responses from both men and women.  One of my clients gave me a copy and reading it has inspired me to observe certain leadership behaviour patterns in others and in me. 

This topic was the inspiration behind conversation at a recent lunch at my favourite coffee shop, Aubergine to which I had invited seven of my women friends. It is amazing what happens when you gather around a table eight intelligent, diverse women who don’t know each other, nor who have any agenda (either hidden or declared!).  Thank you to Cheryne, Des, Hannah, May, Pam, Pranitha and Rosie for sharing their responses and for their quality input into our conversations.  

L-R:  Pranitha Pather, Rosie Chite, and May Bingham.

L-R: Pranitha Pather, Rosie Chite, and May Bingham.

Success 

First, I asked them to write their ‘gut’ response in defining or describing ‘success’.   The answers were fascinating and included: 

  • Independence, guidance and the ability to make a difference in other’s lives; happiness at work and at home but continuously involved in the learning process.
  • Happiness in the ‘in-between’ moments; loving the sound of the alarm in the mornings; striving for excellence; satisfaction with a job well done; making a difference; mentoring; confident in own abilities   I matter: what I do matters.
  • Balance implying appropriateness for individuals in time management, which will differ from person to person, under different conditions.
  • Love what you do; see others growing through you and the ability to seeing and live the outcomes to your actions; and to be able to let go and let others go.
  • Enjoy and find your passion.
  • Learn from failure and be able to move on.

Characteristics of a successful woman

Next they were asked to list ten characteristics of a successful woman.  I have divided their responses into four groups or domains:

D1

  • Honesty and integrity – ethics and values.
  • Courage.
  • Self-Belief.
  • Humility.
  • High standards – aim at excellence.
  • Kind, empathetic, loving.
  • Positive attitudes - enjoy hard work – don’t see it as ‘work’.
  • Sense of humour.
  • Inner strength.
  • Enthusiasm.
  • Passion for ‘work’.
  • Joy.
  • Patience.
  • Authenticity and not having to prove oneself by being a ‘superwoman’.

D2

  • Confident and prepared to take a chance.
  • Resilient.
  • Flexible, adaptive.
  • Strong.
  • Powerful.
  • Have an opinion and be able to share and convince others.
  • Develop and grow people to see the change and make them happy.
  • Listening openly to others for interest – not just for networking.
  • Learning always – from family, peers, workers and network.
  • Stable, grounded and rock-like.
  • Curiosity – ask questions – and then really listen to the answers.
  • Open minded – and also know when to close it!
  • Fit - physically and emotionally.
  • Motivated.
  • Articulate for accurate communication.
  • Have the ability to ‘go against the flow’.
  • Leadership.

D3 

  • Emotionally intelligent.
  • Tolerance but with clear boundaries.
  • Non- discriminative – research and know before taking a decision.
  • Generosity.
  • Quick to praise and do this publicly.
  • Slow to criticise and do this privately.
  • Community spirit.
  • Helpful.
  • Empowered.

D4

  • Visionary.
  • Determination in achieving goals.
  • Attention to career development and success.
  • Chosen balance between work and family.
  • Faith in something more powerful than you.
  • Balance – whatever that means to each individual.
  • Knowledge.
  • Ability to separate life roles.

As South African women, how can we ‘lean in’ more?

This was the third and final question.  

We need to:

  • Develop the competence to know what to do;
  • Stop seeing each other as competition;
  • Engage with women from all communities, particularly in business;
  • Mentor, encourage, inspire and work with everyone;
  • Support each other – males and females;
  • Be sensitive to the process of withdrawing when necessary, and then  returning if necessary;
  • Share in forums and groups for quality conversations;
  • Participate and not just observe;
  • Lose the fear;
  • Be aware – have a finger on the pulse of situations;
  • Be postmodern – well-informed;
  • Be in the present;
  • Network;
  • Use the voice we have;
  • Support and motivate.

This exercise is not intended as an academic survey but simply the spontaneous answers written individually by a group of eight diverse women; the exercise took less than ten minutes.  Quality conversation and the sharing of ideas, the purpose of the meeting was achieved. A greater understanding of each other and of the way different people view the world was the outcome.  Great insights were gained and the conversations continued naturally and informally after the event.  This is a great way to build relationships and to network. 

Two years ago, under similar circumstances, I asked a group of women to list the characteristics of a successful woman.  Their answers are outlines in an article entitled, ‘Success is…’. Wouldn’t it be wonderful if we could all show these characteristics and feel successful?  Through Executive Coaching, whether you are a woman or a man, you can shift towards a better ‘way of being’.  This will enhance all aspects of your life. 

For more information on Executive Coaching, training in networking and communication skills or the other services offered by Brenda Eckstein International, please contact brenda@146.66.90.172 or phone +27 82 4993311.

103: Networking influence

January 14, 2013 by Brenda Leave a Comment

Networking is no longer a choice – it is a necessity for success in any business or professional career.  To many successful people, networking ‘comes naturally’.  It is an unconscious activity.  But it is wise for each of us to invest time in reflecting on our unique strengths as networkers.  How can we improve?  What can we offer others?  How good are we at building relationships?  

Unless we have built positive relationships, exploring possibilities is unlikely to be as effective as it could be.  And the successful outcomes of our actions and projects often depend on the first two steps – building relationships and exploring possibilities.

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Each year companies spend huge amounts of money on association memberships, functions and hospitality events.  They rely heavily on networking for business generation, as well as for managing relationships with existing clients.  In addition, networking is equally important internally.  Often there is a high correlation between the quality of their networks and the success of ‘high potential’ employees. 

I value the ‘network’ I have built up over the years, both from a business and personal perspective.  And my current relationships reflect various ‘eras’ in my development and different formal and informal groups.  And I continue to have my life enriched by wonderful people.  For example, a fellow ‘executive coach’ in Johannesburg, Pat Roberts recently asked a provocative question of a group when running a session and she shared it with me: “Who in your environment could have the most influence on your career and what are you doing to build your relationship with that person?”  She found that the issues and ideas that emerged from this discussion were amazing. 

Reflect on these questions.  Explore possibilities and then take action.  Often we don’t realise how those in our networks not only enjoy helping us, but also sometimes consider it an honour to do so.  But even more important, what can you do for them?  How can you be of assistance?

There are many books on the topic of networking.  Two that are recommended are:

‘Networking tactics’ (please see above) and ‘ABCs of effective networking’ (also authored by Brenda Eckstein). 

For more information on our ‘Networking Tactics’ workshops, or for a speaker on the topic of networking, please contact Brenda on +27 82 4993311 or +27 33 3425432 – email brenda@146.66.90.172 or www.strategy-leadership.com

Networking Savvy: The faces behind the websites

October 10, 2012 by Brenda Leave a Comment

This week’s topic ‘Networking Savvy’ forms the ‘launching pad’ of our brand new ‘EYES’ (Enhance Your Executive Skills) course that begins this Thursday, October 11.  This six-week course combines training and coaching.  I’m delighted to be developing this programme immediately after another exciting trip to Australia where I was again able to attend high-value meetings.  One of these was an ICF  (International Coach Federation) meeting in Sydney.  The presenter, Dr Hilary Armstrong of ‘The Institute of Executive Coaching and Leadership’ discussed ‘Executive Coaching in an Increasingly Politicised Workplace’.    She said that leaders, in order to develop ‘political savvy’ need to hone their ‘networking’ and ‘collaboration’ skills!  (Isn’t this ‘music to the ears’!)  These are people skills involving communication and this combination presents interesting challenges to us as coaches. 

Let me give you some background:  Seven years ago when I wrote my first book on personal networking,  ‘Networking Tactics:  a guide to achieving success through personal networking’ and even when the second book, ‘ABCs of effective networking:  fifty-two ways to achieve success’ was published, social media was not a part of our daily lives.  They continue to gain importance.  However, the more we use electronic media for our communications, the more we need to be reminded of the importance of building positive personal relationships. This impacts on our ability to network and collaborate.  And quality conversation is a key factor.

In Sydney I have a wonderful network of family, friends and business associates.  And many of these have websites.  There is power in linking ‘the face behind the website’ with ‘the face of the business’.  By combining technology and our people skills we can generate even more interest and increase understanding.  This also links to ‘corporate branding’ and ‘personal branding.’

As an example I have chosen 7 of the people I enjoy meeting with.  I have given a few lines on each and then given you a link to their websites.  So, have a look at the photos, read what I have said about each and then go to their websites. (So, indirectly, you’ll be networking with them, too!)  You’ll be fascinated by these interesting people and the work they do.  And of course, you are welcome to contact them!  You won’t be disappointed!  That is networking at its best!

Gary Eckstein
http://eckstein.id.au

 

Gary Eckstein is an excellent example of a person who combines technical expertise and people skills.  His research for his MBA at a top university involved ‘e-marketing’.  As a business consultant, working with a range of clients he helps develop and optimise websites.  (Have a look at my website!) I believe that part of Gary’s success lies in his excellent ability to hold quality conversations. I really enjoy meeting him for coffee – we can talk for hours.   He meets local clients ‘face-to-face’ and being so approachable is part of the success of his business.   

 

Rodney Marks
http://www.comedian.com.au

 

Rodney Marks is a colourful character who humorously presents relevant and meaningful messages which leave an indelible impression.  A Harvard graduate, he is able to provide a  philosophical, yet seriously funny, approach to any topic.  I have heard him speak on numerous occasions and been enthralled each time.   In addition, he works in conjunction with his two sons.   Benjamin is a comedy-writer and Joshua is a film-maker. A former Past President of the NSW Chapter of NSAA, and also of the national body, he has been awarded various honours for the work he performs. And these have been richly deserved.   One-on-one, Rodney is also an excellent conversationalist.   

Kim McGuiness
http://www.networkcentral.com.au

 

Kim McGuiness inspires and motivates.  Her monthly ‘Network Central’ breakfasts in the upmarket ‘Tea Room’ in the Queen Victoria Building in Sydney are a resounding success.  Corporate women and business owners throng to be part of these high-powered events.  As the organiser and MC Kim sets the scene in a professional, yet warm and friendly way.  Her speakers shine – because she helps them to do their best!  In addition to the breakfasts in Sydney and Melbourne, there are mentoring programmes that really work, and may other initiatives that she is involved in.   I always enjoy having coffee with Kim, too.  

Dr Jane Goodall with Andrew O’Keeffe
www.hardwiredhumans.com

Andrew O’Keeffe remains a warm and friendly guy who always seems pleased to meet for coffee despite his outstanding success and busy schedule.  It has been exciting watching Andrew climb from (almost) obscurity to his current position as sought-after author and speaker.  His messages are powerful about the implication of our social nature to leadership.  And his link to Dr Jane Goodall and her institute adds even more depth and interest to his work.  He describes ‘Hardwired Humans’ as ‘designing people strategies based on human instincts’.  Well done, Andrew! 

Dr Danny Beran
http://www.speakercoach.com.au

 

Danny Beran certainly is a ‘doctor with a difference’! His entrepreneurial approach and provocative spirit certainly dispel complacency.  Conversations are of a high quality and leave me with lots to think about!

I first met Danny when he was in the process of completing his book:  ‘Ten questions you must answer before you die’. As a coach my work involves conversations and asking the right questions so this was of great interest to me.   His written message made a huge impact and so do our conversations.  His kindness, warmth and caring reflect the essence of his book.  It is a privilege to spend time with Danny.    

Jan Sky
http://www.execstateid.com

 

Jan Sky is a charming, dignified and competent person who inspires confidence.  There is great synergy between the work we do as Jan is also a trainer, coach, author and speaker.  When we met recently for coffee, I was fascinated to hear that she has recently presented in Finland and The Netherlands.  Her book, ‘The Many Parts of You’ (published in English and Finnish) has now been extended to a set of cards.  These are a useful tool used to identify both inhibitive and supportive factors to positive behaviour change, helping teams and individuals to achieve their goals.   

 

Russell Johnson
www.epr.com.au

 

Russell Johnson was referred to me by Thevan Krishna, some-one whose friendship I value highly.  So I met Russell for the first time last week at his office with a stunningly beautiful view in Sydney. Our fascinating conversation lasted over an hour.  I’m intrigued by the way he combines a number of my key focus areas in helping high ranking executives to manage their careers.  His programmes include coaching (to recognise and develop their own potential), personal strategy, leadership and communication skills development and of course, networking.   I’m looking forward to our next conversation!  In the meantime, please visit his website and study the amazing information there.  

Quality conversation is important to me and I’m privileged to have positive relationships with such fascinating individuals.  Visit their websites – you won’t be disappointed!

 

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