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Beneath the surface

October 28, 2015 by Brenda 1 Comment

You might wonder what this photo represents?  And what is the importance?

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Photo 1.

Let me set the scene: I was sitting on the veranda at the wonderful Oyster Box Hotel and my new phone was placed on the table in front of me. I clicked the camera button by mistake and a few minutes later I happened to see the picture above on my phone screen. 

Parts making up the whole

Let’s dissect the composition and identify the parts making up the whole.  Starting at the top and working in a clockwise direction from 1 o’clock, first you see the top of my upright black computer bag.  At 2 o’clock is my big toe.  Next comes the black and white paisley pattern on the slacks I was wearing.  Conveniently at 6 o’clock is the divider between tiles which are part of the beautiful patterns on the veranda floor.  The strange white article at 8 o’clock is a foot of the metal table leg.  And then you get to the computer case again.   The patterns in the top left corner are part of seat of one of the chairs.

Reflection

So, if I had looked down through a tiny crack in the pattern on the table surface, that is what I might have seen. This would have depended on my exact position and the angle at which I was peering through the crack.  But how often do we see only what is in front of us?  In my case, I was looking at the computer on the table, Ed and Izzy seated at the table with me, the people around me and all the elements which I selectively focussed on - or which happened to ‘catch my eye’.  But, here was this whole exciting, beautiful world under the surface.  And in this case, I might have missed it if I hadn’t clicked the button on my phone by mistake.  If I hadn’t immediately tried to work out the items in the picture, I might have had a battle to identify them.  In this case, the white table leg would really have been confusing.  I had to look beneath the table to see what I had photographed!

Meaning

I stopped to consider what this experience and these reflections might mean to me?  More often I need to stop, take my attention away from my immediate focus, be curious and look in a different direction. 

Experimentation

By this time I was really curious and decided to experiment.  What would happen if I moved my phone just a fraction – only a millimetre or two, and then took another photo?

Photo 2.

Photo 2.

I did, and Photo 2 is what I saw!  This was very different to what I had seen in the previous picture.

So my questions for you are:

  • How often do you stop and see what is below the surface?
  • And then, how carefully do you identify each item in the composition?
  • In other words, what can you do to deconstruct the complexity of the picture?
  • If you shifted your view just a fraction, how different might your perception be?
  • Or if your view is captured in the first photo, how often do you stop to consider that another person may be seeing a view just a few millimetres different to yours?

My invitation is to use this metaphor and try the same exercise. And then expand on it by looking not only downward, but upward, north, south, east and west.

My BIG question then becomes, in relation to a specific issue, how can you use the experience of going through these questions to reflect and then make meaning of your view?  Following that, how are you going to experiment with new behaviour to enhance your ‘way of being’?

I look forward to hearing from you.  For feedback and information on coaching or leadership development please contact Brenda Eckstein at brenda@146.66.90.172 or +27 33 342 5432.

Metaphors that ‘land’

November 26, 2014 by Brenda Leave a Comment

Sometimes by shifting the angle with which we view the world, we broaden our horizons and discover exciting possibilities.  As an Executive Coach I have often found that using a camera lens as a metaphor amplifies a person’s perception and helps them have insights on how stuck (in the present) they could be.  So, I might show my client the picture below:

Photo 1.

Photo 1.

When I asked my grand-daughter to tell me about this first picture she spoke about the ship towards the top of the picture.  And that is how she saw it.  And most of us most probably would have done the same, linking the fact that when I took this photo I appeared to be on a boat, looking out across the water.  Our impression might have been that of ship in the distance. Then I showed her how different the picture looked when, remaining standing in the same position, I lifted the angle of the camera slightly. 

Photo 2.

Photo 2.

Seeing this second photo, she was amazed at how, although she was so familiar with the Sydney Opera House, she hadn’t recognised the building in the first photo and had thought it was a ship.   Having this slightly different angle changed her view of the world.  Now seeing the first picture again she more easily recognises the object in context and knows it is a building, a very special building!  Just for fun, I showed her the third picture where I had again lifted my lens a fraction higher.  

Photo 3.

Photo 3.

This was far more easily recognisable.  And possibly if I had shown her this photo first, she would more easily have recognised the object in Photo 1 because she would have been seeing my views in context. 

This opens a whole range of quality questions from a coaching perspective.  Examples could be:

  • If you were seeing the world according to photo 1 only, what opportunities might you be missing?
  • In photo 2 we have sky, shore, water and part of the Manly Ferry from where I took the photo. What does the balance look like?  And how different is the balance to the proportions in the other two pictures?
  • Using these views as a metaphor, what could each element link to in our lives? For example:
    • Sky could be our rest and sleep
    • Shore and buildings could be our work
    • Water could be our time for family and friends
    • Ferry could be ‘me time’ – the time we spend on sport, study, self-development etc.
  • What happens when those proportions change? For example, in photo 3, the sky is absolutely beautiful, and often we need that in our lives.   But on an ongoing basis, if the sky represents rest and sleep those proportions may not be advantageous.
  • Seeing a recognisable feature in photo 3, without seeing photos 1 and 2, how might you be imagining how a broader or deeper picture might look?

You don’t have to be a coach to have fun reflecting on the angles of your camera and the questions that can cascade from the different views – or even from a single view.  These can lead to great insights and reflection.  However, as integral coaches appropriate distinctions that ‘land’ with our clients play an important part in amplifying the journey from current narrative to future narrative.  Metaphors bring our coaching programmes to life.  So, use them to broaden your horizons and help your clients to shift from where they are now to a brighter future. 

For more information on Executive Coaching or Keynote Speaking please contact brenda@146.66.90.172 or phone +27 82 4993311.

Shifting your view

September 24, 2014 by Brenda Leave a Comment

As an Executive Coach, my role is to help individuals ‘turn their stumbling blocks into stepping stones’.  And changing the way they view the world can bring sustainable shifts to their ‘way of being’.  

We use distinctions to amplify the changes that we are looking for.  An example can be seen clearly from these three photos where I was standing in exactly the same place and simply focused first up, then straight ahead and in the third picture I tilted downwards. 

View 1.

View 1.

I might ask a client to focus only on the first picture above without looking at the other photos.  My questions could be:

  1. If you were in this picture, who are you?
  2. Who are others?
  3. How do you behave?

Obviously, your responses would be based on how you see this picture in context.  Where are you?  What is this structure?  What is supporting it?  What is above you?  What is below you?  Is this sunrise or sunset? etc. 

How different your responses might be if you saw only the next picture, where from exactly the same position, I have tilted my lens straight ahead of me.

View 2.

View 2.

So, if my client were to see only this view, the responses to the same questions would be very different.  By the way, the reason I saw this beautiful picture while looking straight ahead of me is that my room at the beautiful Oyster Box Hotel was on the third floor.  Standing on the balcony looking at this angle I was fascinated by the detail and I’m sure my clients would be, too.  For example, you can see a fisherman in action on the rocks. So when answering the question ‘who are you’, my client might answer in terms of ‘I’m the fisherman on the rocks’ or even, ‘I’m a captain of one of those ships out at sea’.   There were nineteen ships waiting to come in to Durban Harbour. 

Because from View 2 it is obvious that we are looking at a lighthouse, another possibility would be that the client could see themselves as the lighthouse keeper.  And that would be interesting because nowadays there is no man sitting at the top of the lighthouse making sure it works properly!

View 3.

View 3.

Although tilting my camera downwards does not change the view substantially from the second picture, there is additional information.  Here you can see more details of the actual hotel property.  There is the added dimension of the sunloungers and swimming pool.   Later in the day there would also have been people on the relaxers, in the swimming pools or walking around and that would also have impacted on answers given when applying the questions to this picture.  So time of day also changes perception.  On the rocks, the lone fisherman can still be seen waiting for the next fish to bite.  

To many, by adding more detail (View 3) more context would be added.  To others, seeing only the top of the lighthouse, and ‘not knowing’ would open up a world of possibilities.  They could imagine, be creative and introduce their own interpretation of what the surroundings might be.  To those people, having a ‘what if….’ approach could generate new ideas, innovation and creativity.  They might not be limited by the extra detail. 

I invite you to consider very carefully how you are tilting your camera.  And perhaps by changing it slightly, you could see a different world, or a different view of your world.  What might you missing by staying focused, always fixing your view at the same angle?  

Of course, by putting yourself in surrounding that motivate you, you are more likely to be able to absorb the beauty of the possibilities that surround you.  These photos taken from my balcony at the beautiful Oyster Box Hotel certainly help me to be in tune with my authentic self.  By recharging my batteries, I’m able to go forth, explore possibilities and take the best possible action. What can you do to put yourself in the best possible place then alter your angle to be the best for you at that time?  

For more information on Executive Coaching or Keynote Speaking, please contact brenda@146.66.90.172 or phone +27 82 4993311.

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