As an Integral Coach I find that many clients benefit enormously by improving their flexibility. Building their physical competence helps to enhance their agility in other areas of their lives. Through commitment to an individualised programme they can turn ‘stumbling blocks’ into ‘stepping stones’.

Background

Let me give you some background to my interest in flexibility:

My appreciation of Ken Blanchard’s work was heightened when I met him personally. He invited me and my husband to attend a workshop as his guests in Johannesburg. He used sandcastles as a metaphor in considering our need to be ‘fast and flexible’. In his story he elaborates that while the builders were not observant, those sandcastles built at the water’s edge were washed away by the recurring incoming tide. Those built higher on the beach were destroyed by an ‘ad hoc’ storm.

The message, according to Ken Blanchard, is that we should remain ‘fast and flexible’ in order to move away from threats and towards opportunities. And this applies in both our business and private lives. Other authors refer to ‘agility’ as being one of the hallmarks of success. This also implies that we need to be flexible and take appropriate action.

Specific example

I recently experienced a fascinating example of flexibility where high levels of customer service were maintained despite the need to adapt to changing circumstances. In March 2012 we were privileged to visit Botswana ‘on safari’. I highly recommend ‘&Beyond’s’ ‘Chobe-under-canvas’.  Robson Chongwe, Camp Manager and his team of 9 men (no women!) do an excellent job in looking after a maximum of 10 guests accommodated in 5 tents. They quietly provide outstanding service with apparent ease, overcoming many hidden obstacles.

Robson Chongwe, Camp Manager, ‘Chobe-under-Canvas’. In the background, our ‘bedrooms’ can be seen.

 

From a management perspective there are many challenges. For example, to meet government requirements, in the Chobe National Park, the camp may not stay on the same site for more than 5 days. Moving involves ‘breaking up’ the camp, packing up everything, transporting to the new site, offloading and setting up again. (Coaches, isn’t that a wonderful ‘distinction’?). ‘Everything’ includes many tents – guest, staff, kitchen, ‘diningroom’ – and all the contents, equipment and supplies etc. Even the water-tank and individual toilets in each tent’s ‘bathroom’ are portable. To give you an idea of the complexity of this operation, each of the guest and staff tents has to be erected in a way that makes it safe from animals and mosquitoes. And each tent has its own canvas floor. Yet there are ‘normal’ beds with luxury bedding.

On the day of the move, the current site must be vacated by 10am. This interferes with their customary schedules for the game-drives and other activities. To maintain maximum occupancy, bookings are planned so that guests depart that day. So, it means that the team schedule includes making sure the guests are packed and ready to leave before 9am, regardless of what time their flights depart. Robson says ‘this is sometimes disturbing to the guests’ as their flights may be leaving only that evening. So, I guess they have very long game drives that day!

The camp has to be set up and functioning at the new location before the arrival of the new guests the following day. So, within that structure, the team-members have to be very flexible in many aspects. They have to cope with ‘not knowing’. In addition to structural and functional demands, they need to meet environmental changes. Variables include the weather and the animals’ behaviour response to it. And then there are seasonal differences, too.

Robson Chongwe and his team.

 

How do guests need to adapt and be flexible?

The team also needs to meet guest’s expectations as far as possible. For example, on the game drives, which because of the Park rules cannot take place before 6am or after 7pm, the guides need to show as many animals and birds as possible. Yet there needs to be a balance between viewing time and ‘down’ time. I just loved sitting in the ‘dining room’ and writing this article!

Let’s look at some of the factors that require a certain amount of flexibility in order for the guests to get the maximum benefit from this ‘African Adventure’. They have expectations of a high level of comfort, safety and food. Yet the prime reason they are there is to experience the flora, fauna and the experience.

Some of the many areas we had to be flexible:

Time schedule – the mealtimes need to fit in with game-drives and seeing the animals to maximum advantage. Cereal and coffee were served before the game drive which started at 6am. Brunch took place at 11am (after the return from the game drive).

Showering – warm water is provided only at 7pm. So, if you would like a warm shower, that is when you shower! A bowl of warm water was provided for washing ‘hands and face’ at that time (one of the team comes to the back flap of your tent and delivers it to you) and also at 5:30am.

Safety – after dark, it is not safe for guests to walk even from the ‘dining tent’ or fire to their tents without a guard. So, once you are in your tent, you stay there for the night, unless there is an emergency. This normally isn’t a problem, but one evening I realised I had dropped my glasses and couldn’t go outside to find them.

Exercise is limited as there are no fences and guests can’t go for walks or runs.

Charging of mobiles, camera batteries etc. can take place only at 7 pm when a vehicle returns and its battery is fully charged. And then guests take it in turn to recharge their items before retiring for the night.

How does flexibility affect us in general?

The metaphor of the ‘moving tents’ reminds me of how we need to constantly ‘reinvent’ our businesses and ourselves. Improving our ability to adapt without compromising our true selves can help us reach potential. How agile are you?

My questions for you:

  1. How flexible area you in functioning within different environments from both a business and personal perspective?
  2. With whom do you need to be more flexible?
  3. When do you find that your habits are holding you back?
  4. Where do you physically feel your lack of agility?
  5. What can you do to improve your flexibility?

How do we help clients to become more flexible?

If you’d like to turn your ‘stumbling blocks’ into ‘stepping stones’ please consider engaging an Integral Coach. I coach ‘in person’ and have also become more agile in meeting client’s needs through coaching some sessions via Skype or telephone.

For more information on Integral Coaching please contact me – Phone: +27 33 3425432, Mobile: + 27 82 4993311, brenda@strategy-leadership.com.

 

Here is one of my templates that has enabled people to improve their conversation skills in a way that helped to build positive relationships.   

When I train workshop participants in conversation skills, I stress the following:

A simple ‘hello’ may end a ‘journey of discovery’.  There is often so much more you could say when you greet others. By feeding them relevant information you are providing the gift of information that they can ‘hook onto’ in order to build a conversation.   

  • By saying your name clearly you are helping others to remember you.    
  • The ‘from’ could inform others about your business or geographic locality.    
  • Please note the difference between, ‘I’m here today because…’ and ‘I’m pleased to be here because….’  The former could engender negative connotations – ‘I’m here because my boss insisted’ or ‘I’m come to be coached because my supervisor said I needed it’.  The latter encourages positive input – ‘I’m pleased to be here because I want to shift, change the way I operate’.  Depending on the circumstances, the word ‘pleased’ could change the essence of your message.’

The above format allows the listener to build a quick starting point for exploring the relationship further. 

I invite you to ask yourself how you could improve your ability to give brief, snappy introductions.  A simple practice that some of my trainees and coachees engage in as follows:

Each morning, using the above template, think of one situation in which you could use this greeting template.  Craft the most appropriate wording for that specific encounter.  Stand in front of a mirror.  Check your posture.  Are you projecting an image of confidence?  Breathe properly.  Practice the greeting, projecting your voice.  How does that sound?  Practice again.

Do this each morning for two weeks, working on a different scenario every day.  Choose the appropriate words you’d use in that specific situation.   Even try some ‘way out’ examples.   One that I enjoy is imagining that you are the new rugby coach.  (This is for you, girls!).  Using the template above, introduce yourself to your team.  For the guys, imagine that you are Miss South Africa.  You are walking into a room and need to introduce yourself to sponsors (who do not know you).  What words would you use?

Have fun practising a wide range of different situations.  It will help you to improve your ability to build relationships in ‘everyday’ situations.

For more information on training in communication skills, or on ‘integral coaching’ please contact me – Phone:  +27 33 3425432, Mobile:  + 27 82 4993311, brenda@strategy-leadership.com.

 

Life is full of stories.  Some we tell in words – and sometimes pictures speak to us.  Here is the chronicle of a week of my life, seen through the filter of ‘sunrise’. 

Sunday:  this week began in Cape Town where I love watching the light change as the sun rises behind the Waterfront.

 

Wednesday:  at home in Pietermaritzburg, the view from my window excites me as each new day dawns.

 

Saturday:  the week ended in the KZN Midlands at Hartford House, award winning country hotel, a ‘world-class hotel on a world-class stud farm’.  We were the guests of Mick and Cheryl Goss and this was a truly memorable experience.  The mist hung over the dam next to our cottage and sunrise enriched the mystery of the new day. 

 

So, what does this story tell us?  On reflection, it tells me that I need to include those sights, sounds and other experiences that truly make me feel ‘alive’.  ‘Sunrise’ is one of my ‘touchstones’ and I try to incorporate every day where possible. 

What are your ‘touchstones’?  Think about it carefully.  List those experiences that make you feel your best.  What are they?  And then try to include these in as many different aspects of your life as possible.

Let me give you an example:  one of my coaching clients loves the sound of natural moving water.  The sea, waterfalls and streams are ‘touchstones’ for her.  When I visited her at work, I asked her how she was incorporating these elements in her business life.  Through our conversation she realised that she wasn’t doing enough.  There was a beautiful stream at the end of the business property and her practice was to begin taking her lunch and enjoying it next to the stream.  She loved these daily trips and felt that this was good for her soul!

So, think again.  What are some of those experiences that make you feel really good?  You can bring them into your life even in the form of photos – just as I have done in the ‘chronicle’ above.  The same applies with people.   I took a photo of my coaching course leaders who are outstanding role models.  I’m placing that in my office and whenever I’m not certain how I should handle a situation, my question to myself is:  ‘what questions would Craig and Janine ask me right now?’.  My answers help me to be in touch with my reality.

Let me ask you again:  Who are those people who inspire you, help you to grow?  How can you incorporate them in your life even more?  

Identify the people who have a positive impact on your life.  Be more aware of those sights, smells, sounds and feelings that bring out the best in you.  Carefully consider how you can include in your ‘story’ and you will benefit. 

 

A business model which has a huge impact on my thinking emphasises that your likelihood of success in a specific type of business is linked to your:

  1. Passion
  2. Skill, knowledge, experience or ‘feel’
  3. Ability to generate the right amount of money in that field.

Some of the questions asked are:

  1. How much does the topic or that aspect of the business energise you?
  2. What is the extent of your skills in this area?  What is the depth of your knowledge?  How much ‘tacit’ knowledge have you built up?
  3. Will your involvement in this enterprise be able to generate the right amount of money for you in proportion to 1 and 2 above?

These three aspects must be ‘in sync’.  Let me give you two examples of what can happen where there is lack of balance.

A friend of ours was an expert in the field of intricate cake icing and specialised in wedding cakes.  When she immigrated to another country, she decided to set up a business in this field.  When we test her intention against the above model, she had the passion and the skills and experience.  However, number 3 was lacking.  The hours taken to craft the icing were out of proportion to the monetary amount she could charge for the cakes.  Hence, the demand at that price was limited and she could not generate proportionate income to align with 1 and 2.

Another friend used to run an office administration business in our city.  But she lost interest after many years.  Her passion (1) was gone.  She had the skills, the knowledge and experience (2) to continue running a very successful business and it brought in the right amount of money (3).  But she did not feel successful because 1 was missing.  So, she sold the business and moved to something that brought her success through 1, 2 and 3 being ‘in sync’.

I believe that being aware of the importance of these three factors (and their combined impact) can help us to make wiser decision in our business or professional lives.  We can also look at factors similar to this in our private lives.  Questions to ask ourselves are:

  • Are we engaged in those activities which make us feel ‘whole’?
  • How can we incorporate more of those sights, sounds, smells and kinaesthetic experiences that bring out the best in us?
  • In what way are we building, conserving and spending our personal energy?
  • What are we doing to use our existing skills to better advantage?
  • How are we continuously improving our skills?
  • What are we doing to ensure that our financial rewards are in proportion to our expectations?
  • How fair is our monetary compensation in relation to our enthusiasm, knowledge and experience?

So, applying business models can help us to make decisions that are more likely to lead to success.  Some models can also be adapted to enhance our private lives.  Reflection can help us align and build a stronger future.  So, how can you take the above ideas and use to build a stronger future?

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